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  • Writer's pictureDr. J Rodriguez

The Power Of Solidarity In The Moments Of Life

Updated: Sep 2, 2022

Communication is an art and a science that is hard to master and even harder to muster in the moments that matter most. At times, you may feel like you need a guide on the side or a sage on stage to help you crush it in ways that work for you. This feeling can fester until you discover a strategy that assists you in becoming the best guide and sage on the stage of life in this moment and the next.

There’s no doubt that communication is at the heart of human connection. It is foundational. It is fundamental. But figuring out what to say and how to say it is a beast, especially when it comes to effective communication because successful messaging can be a real pain in the rump. Discovering the best way to engage others, captivate your crew, and connect with the world that exists outside your thought bubble can feel like a mind-numbing maze.

For three decades, the study of communication has been my bread and butter, my stock and trade. What if I told you that there’s a simple process to help you communicate better during daily conversations?

I’ve discovered that the roles that you allow yourself to play in the moments of life can have a profound effect on your relationships with others. By allowing yourself to be a certain type of person, you allow others to do the same: The result is a profound experience of solidarity.

This truth captures the essence of my work at the intersections of identity, intentionality, and agency. Now, identity can mean a lot of things to a lot of people. For me, identity is the idea that you are a certain character in every situation. You play a particular role. You can ask, “Who am I in this scene?” or “What’s my role in this situation?” Intentionality is the notion that you have a goal or motivation. You might ask, “What’s my purpose?” or “What am I hoping to accomplish?” Agency is the capacity to act, to take action. You could ask, “What can I do to be helpful?” or “How can I move in the world in ways that work?”

Now imagine taking the perspective of the other person in the conversation. With regard to identity, you might ask, “Who is this person (the other) in this scene?” In terms of intentionality, you can ask, “What is their purpose?” Finally, considering agency, you could ask, “What can they do?” Then, allow your being (your fluid sense of self) to move in the direction of doing by helping them (the other person) answer these questions in ways that work for them, in moments of solidarity, in moments of humanity, in moments of community.

More and more, we are discovering that who you are in the world is not something that you own, but a significance that you develop in social relationships. Who you are in the world is not one thing, but defined by all the roles you play and the dialogue that comes from those roles. Who you are in the world is not disembodied, but defined and deeply rooted in the culture and history of your being as you move in the world.

These ideas are the driving force in my thinking as I write my book. These ideas are the guiding principles in my work with over 10,000 students and workshop participants in the last decade alone. And, for me, these ideas reflect a democracy of spirit that we bring to light through our interactions with each other.

So, next time you want to share a significant moment with another person, become a light (a site of possibility) for that someone by asking, “Who am I in this scene?” “What is my purpose?” and “What can I do to help?” Follow up by wondering, “Who are they (the other) in this scene?” What is their purpose?” and “What can they do?”

You may discover, as if for the first time, that in answering these questions you become a person worthy of connection. You become a competent communicator by focusing on what someone needs in the moment. You become a source of solidarity in moments that matter most by creating a sense of belonging, a sensation of caring.

And, perhaps most surprisingly, you experience freedom by allowing your being (who you are) to inform your doing (who you are becoming). You become free to be who you are at any moment, so that significance becomes something you invent with someone every single day.

Note: This content is based on a TEDx talk titled, The Power of Solidarity in the Moments of Life (Direct Link: An earlier version of this adapted material was published in Another View, focusing on useful strategies for managing relationships at work, at home, and at play. Feel free to follow Dr. J on Twitter @JRodriguez_PhD (J. Rodriguez, Ph.D.) or visit online at

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